Since March of 2020, we've been highlighting wedding mistakes, BUT ALSO offering suggestions. We're wrapping up our series of blogs with this one and if you've learned or rediscovered as much as we have, then our work here is done.
Links to all the previous blogs are at the end, along with a little encouragement.
Mistake 26: You Elope Without Thinking
Don't get to the Grand Canal in Venice to say your vows only to find out that you cannot avail yourself of your favorite church unless you're Catholic, have generations of relatives who attend regularly or Italian citizenship. It happens. Get your license, read about the national, state or country's laws and then go for it..... with care!
Mistake 27: Then You Downplay Eloping
Whether or not you have a "Wedding Celebration" when you get home or not, the day is still special if you do it in Vegas, by the sea, at a farm you've discovered or at City Hall. Get a bouquet. Buy a special dress or ensemble - white or not and take a few images to remind you why you just couldn't wait. IT IS A SPECIAL DAY.
Mistake 28: You Overdo the Hair Products
Remember the last time that your hair was greasy and you just loved it? Exactly. Your wedding day is not the day to overdo it. If you can spring for a stylist, it's worth it, but if you cannot, then ask a trusted friend, watch YouTube videos and practice. When it's right, it's right and you'll have pictures you're proud of looking gorgeous years later.
Mistake 29: You Don't Research Your Florals
What you carry down the aisle is one thing (see Mistake 30 below), the arrangements for the rest of the ceremony, venue and day also require some thought. Flowers that look amazing but have strong odors should not be centerpieces on your dining tables. Lilies and salmon mousse? No thanks. Coordinate between vendors as you make decisions.
Having more of a DIY wedding: follow these principles yourself. You're a smart girl. Smell everything you're thinking of displaying and if it clashes in your nose, it will for others. Don't be so dazzled by a flower or a dish that, when combined, you kill the experience.
Mistake 30: You Don't Match Flowers and Dress
A bridal bouquet that size of a Mini Cooper may outshine your simple, boho chic frock. Get the gown first and once you know it's THE one, take an image of you in it to your florist. From there, you can choose favorite blooms that complement rather than compete with.
Mistake 31: Spray Tan
"She wasn't orange when I proposed to her....."
Let's not overhear that at your wedding. Practice to get the formula right for your spray tan. This means: get started several months before your wedding. You can then gauge the correct color, how long it will last and work with your make-up artist.
And ladies: if you have the skin and complexion of a Nicole Kidman or Emma Stone - GO WITH IT. Women blessed with fair skin look like angels and are lit from within. Not everyone needs to exhibit a tan from the islands.
Mistake 32: You Don't Consider the Reception Venue when thinking about Decor
This one feels so obvious that we almost didn't include it, but ...... if your reception hall has a huge bank of windows overlooking a gorgeous view, you may want to back off on buying more decor. Point guests toward the view and stick with table decor and items for the buffet tables or bride and groom's table.
Mistake 33: Free Flowing Toasts - Yikes!
Two important rules of thumb for the toasts:
One: choose people who will keep time in mind or know when to give up the mic to the emcee or wedding planner.
Two: don't let the toasting time become a free-for-all where drunk guests stand up and - one after the other - tell inappropriate stories.
Mistake 34: The Music Volume
The music for dancing at your reception should be fun, not extremely or obviously vulgar, and after the first dance, father-daughter and other family dances are done, the tunes should be inclusive.
Most importantly: people still want to mingle, eat and chat. If it's too loud, your crowd will sneak out to save their eardrums.
Mistake 35: You Ignore Your Parents
It doesn't matter what has happened during the planning of your wedding or for how long, they are still your parents. Make sure that you find time with them, you toast them, thank them and let them know how grateful you are for them.
The details of this December wedding are as sweet and lovely as the bride. Chelsea Kidd married Jesse Phillips near the end of last year in a traditional church wedding. The bride is keeping most of the day private, but the theme was winter-forest and the gathering was intimate and warm. She looks like an angel..... or a model.... perhaps both.
They said "I Do" at the Calvary Baptist Church in Wilkesboro, with the reception at the event center.
"The gown I chose made me feel like a BRIDE. From the first moment I tried the gown on, I
instantly knew it would be the one I wore as I walked down the aisle. It created a sense of
confidence in myself that is otherwise concealed.
I loved that my gown and each accessory (shoes, veil, bouquet, etc.) incorporated pearls which matched my pearl engagement ring and tied my entire outfit together!
The friendliness and experience of Kelly and her staff at Bridal Traditions is unmatched! I was assisted in trying on each dress and was handled with much grace when I did not make a decision the same day. Kelly was very patient and wanted to ensure that I found the perfect dress. And with her help, I did!
Each of our bridesmaids chose a dress from BT that suited them in their own unique way. The groom and groomsmen also rented their suits with Bridal Traditions. The convenience of having all of our bridal party’s attire and color matching was awesome."
To this gorgeous bride, we say thank you for choosing us. At BT, we wish you nothing but joy and love this year and every year after.
Who knew there were so many mistakes that brides can make for their wedding day? Well, apparently the experts knew and our job at BT is to share, educate and encourage. We are on Part 5 (FIVE!) of this series and we hope you ladies out there are taking notes and considering what will and won't work for you.
So here goes! Links to the blogs for Parts 1 through 4 are at the end if you're "playing catch up."
Mistake 21: Too Much Invitation
You've heard of too much information? Well this is similar. Keep the invitation clean, clever and celebratory. Don't overstuff the envelope with extras like hotel info, places in the area to visit, maps, and other registry details on separate pieces of paper. Don't turn it into junk mail. YOU'RE BETTER THAN THAT! And people lose stuff.
Send out extraneous details via email with links so that guests can pull it up on their smartphones or print out what they need on their own.
Mistake 22: You Don't Let Little Things Go
From the moment you start planning until you've left for your honeymoon, you need to remember that you're hosting a celebration. You may have 20 people or 250, but they are guests and the goal is to celebrate your marriage vows and have a great time. If one thing doesn't go off as planned, LET - IT - GO.
Mistake 23: You Don't Set Parental Boundaries
Whether it's your parents or your future in-laws, speak up earlier rather than later about conflicts with planning, style, overstepping, etc. Vent (angrily if you want) to a pal first, but show that you really are truly grateful when it's time to chat with parents about what's bothering you. They will understand and your firm-but-kind delivery of feelings will make all the difference.
Mistake 24: You Forget About Your Brows
Perhaps you've hired someone to do your makeup or asked a skilled friend, but if you don't take care of the thing that frames your face, you'll wish you had. For those who don't normally care about their eyebrows, about a month before your wedding day, visit an aesthetician for waxing and shaping. This will give you time to see what you like. A week out from your wedding, have them done so that any redness can subside.
Mistake 25: You Draw Attention to Eyesores
If there is an alley, an exit sign, a set of trash cans or a parking area that is not so pretty around your venue, don't doll it up in an effort to disguise it. Draw the eyes of your guests elsewhere. Half the time they aren't looking anyway, and just want to focus on you.
Over a year ago, before we had to worry about pandemics or the cares that come with a new year, these two sweethearts were married. In May of 2019, Carlie Mickel and Dylan Deskins committed themselves to each other at Trinkle Mansion Bed and Breakfast in Wytheville Virginia. They chose a beautiful spot to say their vows and the day turned out to be gorgeous. A small family ceremony was all it took, and some skillful planning as a bride.
The Preparations and Ceremony
Carlie had the ceremony down to the minute and this included picking up flowers, the drive from Elkin to Virginia, getting ready and then being escorted down the hall and stairs to meet her future husband.
"Dylan and I chose to write our own vows, no matter how badly we stumbled through them. As our unity symbol, we had a sign that says Mr. and Mrs. and our wedding date with an accompanying lock that has no key.
After we were pronounced husband and wife, we hugged each of our family members and then went into our first dance. We danced to "Dance with Me" by Morgan Evans featuring Kelsea Ballerini.
Then we had cake and neither one of us trusted the other while feeding the other. While our guests ate cake, Dylan and I ran away to take pictures. After pictures were through we came back to our family for them to say their goodbyes."
This couple met through a mutual friend and on a blind date. After finding each other in classes at Wilkes Community College, they kept seeing each other and their relationship grew.
"Cost was not an option when I was looking for my dress. I told myself that I would know when I had the 'one' and I was going to take it home at whatever cost. I chose not to look at many bridal gowns because I didn’t want to overthink every detail of every dress I tried on. I knew I wanted sleeves but that was the only requirement I had for the dress."
"I looked amazing in the dress and it was a big part of choosing it. It was the first dress I tried on and I felt tears come to my eyes and I brushed them off. I tried on two other gowns but I kept comparing them to the first gown. My gown had sleeves that could be added to it and I just couldn’t stop looking at myself in it."
Congratulations to Carlie and Dylan on their new life together. We loved helping make part of your wedding dream happen.