One of services at Bridal Traditions is counsel. And honestly, it is our best, seriously. We sell gowns, dresses, suits and accessories, but our greatest gift may well be the gift of wisdom and reason. We can give you sound advice with candor and love and that is what this blog is about. We're going to lay down some truth about the second-guessing that brides sometimes do AFTER they've said yes to a dress. In short - DON'T DO IT. It causes more headaches, heartaches and needless worry than clarity.
Stop Looking at Dresses Once you've said yes.
Once you have found your gown, it's time to move on to other aspects of planning the wedding. If you continue to look at dresses, you're going to drive yourself nuts. Stop the shopping process.
You're complete. When you hear The Love Theme, it's time to think about flowers, catering, your band, your cake, the guest reservations and gifts for your attendants, and your other vendors for the big day.
Do not dissect pictures of your gown.
And especially, do not scrutinize pictures of you in your dress. At BT, we allow you to take images of you trying on your gown for reference, and after a "YES" and purchase, we've found that brides want to zoom in and spend too much time dissecting themselves from every angle based on simple photos. We want you to think about how many selfies you take before you find "the one" to post on social media. It's the same with your wedding gown. You've tried on a bunch of dresses, and now have the one you want. Stop picking apart your decision by worrying about details from a bad camera angle.
refrain from trying it on at home.
Once you have your dress, do NOT put it on every 5 seconds. For starters, you can damage it. No one thinks they will, but a spill, a pull on the fabric or lace, random dirt - and now you've got a "used" gown. Secondly, trying it on again and again will make it begin to feel old. And finally, it will lose its magic. You bought this gown for a very important moment in life - once in a lifetime - so make sure it feels like ONCE in a lifetime, not like a favorite pair of jeans.
Stop listening to what others say.
Even when they are people we love, we all have naysayers in our lives. Grandma Suzie may hope to convince you that your dress doesn't go with the setting... or the season .... or your theme. The fact is, if you love it, you will feel beautiful and look beautiful. BT Owner Kelly Shumate likes to say that any dress is right for any venue or season, if the bride who has chosen it knows that it is right for her. Grandma Suzie is wonderful, but opinions are just that. Don't be swayed by those with something random to say. Hug them, and know that you've chosen well.
Believe in your instincts
And by believe in your instincts, we mean: BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. Trust yourself. The same way that you knew that your spouse was the one, you know the same about your gown. Trust that. At Bridal Traditions, we want each bride to feel seen and heard. Give yourself that same gift of respect, and once you've chosen THE ONE, get excited about all the other details of your day. You'll wear your dress with more pride if you've chosen it with faith in yourself.